Life really sucks!

[ARCEE^_^]

hey guys!
I just got back from the doctors and was thinking if I should do this so I've chosen to!
It's just been confirmed I'm suffering from mild depression.
my life is really lonely and the only time I'm happy is when I'm talking to u guys or being with my besties.
my question is does anyone have any ideas on how to make me feel any better?

p.s. I'm not kidding!

[Trailbreaker]

Wow, they way you behave on this site it's really hard for me to believe you have mild depression.

Eh hem.

Let's see. First of all what kinda things go on in your life? Cuz some things could be the cause of depression.

Also start hanging with more people. The more you are lonely the more depressed you are.

Not very good advice from the Autobot but oh well I tried.

[Dark_Rodimus84]

if anyone knew where this place is (the mistical land of pobblebonks) i'm sure wouldn't be lonely

[Shadow]

hey guys!
I just got back from the doctors and was thinking if I should do this so I've chosen to!
It's just been confirmed I'm suffering from mild depression.
my life is really lonely and the only time I'm happy is when I'm talking to u guys or being with my besties.
my question is does anyone have any ideas on how to make me feel any better?

p.s. I'm not kidding!

im no doc but there are many types of depression and depression is common sweety. 340 million people in the world suffer from depression and rising. 1 in 4 women suffer from depression. Now for someone so young, depression isnt good. Dont you have more friends you can hang with and do things with? Depression isnt something you can just get rid of. You have to first find out whats making you depressed and try and change it.

[uraydo]

hey guys!
I just got back from the doctors and was thinking if I should do this so I've chosen to!
It's just been confirmed I'm suffering from mild depression.
my life is really lonely and the only time I'm happy is when I'm talking to u guys or being with my besties.
my question is does anyone have any ideas on how to make me feel any better?

p.s. I'm not kidding!

a very close family member of my suffers from depression, and I can tell you one thing for sure. Don't do drugs (that your doctor doesn't prescribe). This person smokes pot and although they act better after smoking, they are all the worst after the high wears off. Alcohol can do the same thing.

other than that, surround your self with beautiful things. Listen to happy songs. I know bands like the Beatles and Audioslave and 3 doors down have been there plenty of times for me.

[fallen_guy15]

Just as uraydo said, listen to happy songs that really helps. Try to meet new friends also, be outgoing. Idk just my opinion.

[sora]

The severe depression killed my brother. And I'm aware I received a gene for depressive tendency from my biological father and great grandmother (both dead by the depression). I admit I too suffered it right after my brother's death (yup I attempted suicide too and some people still laugh at it), I luckily got out of it without any medical care, but I know well what it feels like.


Doctors and prescribed medicines might help, but it's just a help. In the long term, you have to shift-up your entire point of view into the positive way. Don't forget that the brightest part of life is just sleeping somewhere deep inside of you. Dig, dive and grab it. You don't have to wait till someone or something will bring it to you.


When I was at your age, I used to feel like I was a bottle of water, being split off from the sea. It was lonely and uneasy, I couldn't stand to be held captive in flesh and blood. But later I realized that this bottle called "life" has a nice lid to open. So I can fetch, drink, give, and even swim anytime I want. As a bonus, this bottle can be painted cute, cool, sexy too.


Writing, painting, playing music work well too. Write down your depressive feeling. Paint your darkness. Sing your tears. Then it's no longer just a depression, but an art.


Hey, and you're so young! Keep realizing you're a beautiful butterfly inside the cocoon. Imagine how amazing your wings will look like. Spring will come soon.

[redqueenar]

hey guys!
I just got back from the doctors and was thinking if I should do this so I've chosen to!
It's just been confirmed I'm suffering from mild depression.
my life is really lonely and the only time I'm happy is when I'm talking to u guys or being with my besties.
my question is does anyone have any ideas on how to make me feel any better?

p.s. I'm not kidding!

Get a good night's sleep*, eat healthy and regularly (eat small meals often, rather than one or two big ones per day), and be as active as possible.

*this is hardest. Obviously.

Remember that you're in control and the negative, even suicidal feelings you may have are FALSE!!! It's all in your head. Figure out what keeps you "up" and stay focused on it.

[Chip]

I second what Queen and Sora said, and can speak from personal experience. Being someone who deals with mild depression, I have to battle personal demons on a daily basis. Here's what I have found beneficial.

Keep in mind, I refer to my failed suicide attempt as my only failure in life and my greatest life lesson. I emerged as a healthier and more intelligent person. My attempt was associated with a feeling of loneliness and self-pitty, even though I was blessed to be surrounded with a large group of close friends. I truly did not want to die...I just did not know how to deal with my feelings.

1. Stay active. Exercise is a great way to generate an endorphin release that will have a great impact. As you progress through your program, you will mentally benefit from the physical improvements in strength and endurance. Surprisingly, most fitness professionals exercise for the mental benefit and battle depression and self-confidence issues. Many are wrong by assuming we exercise for physical vanity.

2. Keep yourself busy. Create daily tasks that are constructive. Rather than playing a video game, build something that you can touch and take pride in.

3. Socialize. Although we all love chatting on this site...I am referencing face-to-face socialization. Schedule times with your friends. I am a big advocate of a scheduled weekly event with friends such as guys-night or ladies night out. It gives something to look forward to.

4. Try to avoid becoming dependent on medications. They are simply a bandage and not a remedy.

5. Write...write...write. We often have a difficult time verbally communicating what is troubling us. We are so concerned about the reactions of others that we focus our concentration on them rather than the feelings we need to communicate. This is a great way to find the actual reason(s) for the feelings you have.

I really hope this helps. Feel free to send a private message if you want to chat more.

[The Great]

hey guys!
I just got back from the doctors and was thinking if I should do this so I've chosen to!
It's just been confirmed I'm suffering from mild depression.
my life is really lonely and the only time I'm happy is when I'm talking to u guys or being with my besties.
my question is does anyone have any ideas on how to make me feel any better?

p.s. I'm not kidding!

let me explain my last few months. I had a grand mother die before thanksgiving had to put my dog to sleep after she ingested something of mine and couldn't recover. almost got evicted because I couldn't pay rent because of all this unexpected crap that happened.

had to go to an interview that took me two hours to get to the place it was held aat in a freaking blizzard. Got tyhe job but not the position i wanted so i turned it down. you want to know how to get past depression you keep moving forward and everytime you feel like staying in the house you get the fuck out stay away from alcohol. Stay close to friends. go to s therapist if you have to. call and talk to people you love frequently and do whatever it takes to get happy.

I promise when you walk through the crowd and look around and the people who helped you and were there you'll be stronger.

[hautbasclair]

... and be as active as possible.

Very accurate

[Firefrost]

I vouch for the music aspect. I've been through many things over the years and the one thing I learned is that music DOES tame the savage beast. The fact that I'm a drummer allows me the outlet for a lot of my woes and problems. However, just listening to certain types of music can spin you right around.

Try a daily dose of Sublime. Bradley sang about many depressing things but found a beautiful uplifting way to express it. Like it was said before, write, writing helps alleviate your head of it's burdens and congestion.

I'm one of those terrible people that bottles up all my problems and feelings until I burst. Thankfully, I do it through loud music. Express yourself in writing and try hard not to stuff things away. That archive will no doubt get full and nothing good will come out it.

There is a lot of good advice in this thread and I think you should try to follow all it. Stay positive, chin up and it will sort itself.

[TerminalHamster]

Alls I can say is stay active, eat well, hang with pals or family and most important.

If you think negative thoughts constantly, stop.

Just stop yourself if you feel the bad vibes. Think something good, anything, if its a blatant lie about how awesome you are, so what? think it.

Positive reinforcement in your own head.
The brain can be programmed, and its programmed by repeatedly experiencing something, so program it with good vibes and eventually good vibes become part of who you are.

[ARCEE^_^]

thanks for ur advice everyone and I've done most of what u've told me so. I've rearranged my room, changed my radio station, I now call my friends that live interstate at least every 2 days and I've got some new trainers, my dad and brother have moved their beer supply some where new(were I don't know) and I might be getting a new puppy!

[Firefrost]

*the sun begins to shine again*

[elemental fantasy]

Nvm.....

[Beej]

As the following article goes, depression can be an agent of change. Let it be...

http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/20051...cal-depression

[uraydo]

"when I find my self in times of trouble
Mother Mary comes to me
speaking words of wisdom
Let it Be..."

[ARCEE^_^]

As the following article goes, depression can be an agent of change. Let it be...

http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/20051...cal-depression

wow my B-day is the day after his!

[megatron42]

well arcee i had depression.. yes it does sucks and being on the meds

[Wreckage]

I know what you mean by suffering from bouts of sadness and depression. I believe that most people face their dark nights of the soul.

I would suggest finding other people who share many of the same interests as you and can be counted on to be there when you need them. I know that is hard. Often, I feel like an alien on this planet myself. But I feel that hanging out with beneficial people is so important, whether you hang out with them in person or on the internet.

I have found that sacrificing your authenticity to fit in with another person's or group's viewpoint is a huge path towards depression. I have found that if one wants to be happy, then he or she has to say "fuck what other people think"! One has to be himself or herself as long as one's quest for individuality and meaning doesn't harm others.

Another thing that helps is to find as many things as one can to be greatful for and let that gratitude overpower one's insecurities.

Yeah I wish I looked like Megan Fox (I'm a woman for all of you who thought I was a guy). I wish I was as thin as her. Actually, I just need to loose some weight, which I am in the process of doing. I have a decent figure. Just need to loose some weight. But in the end, who cares? As Buddha pointed out, the only thing everything has in common is impermanence. Our bodies are destined to get old, ugly, and wither away. Even Megan Fox's body. She won't look the same at age 50 as she does now. She'll get wrinkles like the rest of us and start to sag. So why obsess over fragile, limited, and short-lived bodies? Coming from an enlightened Buddhist perspective, why waste our limited time worrying about how we look? But we do.

I often look down on what I do. I clean toilets and rooms for crying out loud. Megan Fox just has to show her cleavage in a couple of movies and she makes more money in those few scenes than I do in three years. Sometimes I really hate myself and my life.

But you know what? At least I have a job, even if it's one that doesn't pay me as much as some Hollywood pretty face makes. Still, I get paid almost twice as much as minimum wage and I have health and vacation benefits. In today's economy, that is something to be very greatful for.

I may not have Megan Fox's looks, but at least I'm healthy. I use to be jealous of Christina Applegate. I use to wish I looked like her. But you know what? She didn't have it made either. She got breast cancer at a young age. I'm lucky to be as healthy as I am given the way I've treated myself.

[raddimus]

To be perfectly honest as we all know everyone suffers from depression from time to time Like someone suggested earlier,try listening to some up beat music that makes you happy. I personally love film so I watch movies...also watching a movie with a sad ending or major problems others have to deal with cheer me up.It causes me to become aware though I'm feeling down these other people have far greater problems than myself. If they can deal with and get through there problems then I cant get through alitlle bit of my own. try not to feel self pity by recognizing that that is just negative chemical embalance and it's wrong to feel this way,you could be livving in mubai scavvenging through trash,or be homless...just try to remember no matter how bad things are they could always be worse,and that nothing in the universe is ever constant. So things will get better.